But Mother’s Day is not always happy, especially for those who have lost their mom. It can still be significant, says Alana, 35. Her mother, Patricia, died of breast cancer when Alana was eight years old. At age 12, Alana competed in her first Mother’s Day Classic and has been going ever since. “Participating in this gave me meaning on an occasion that, in the early days, I would rather forget.”
As a now-mother herself, Alana is carrying on the tradition with her seven-year-old son, Blake, and plans to keep it going after the impending birth of her second child. “Mother’s Day has never been breakfast in bed for me. It’s about getting up early, putting on pink T-shirts and bringing the family together. I want my kids to grow up knowing that we do it every year for their nonna.
Mother’s Day can also be difficult for people who have a complicated relationship with their mom. If you want to take the first step, O’Doherty says Mother’s Day can be a perfect launch pad for reconnecting. If that’s not on the cards, she says, just remembering that Mother’s Day has no intrinsic weight can also be uplifting.
But if it’s a day you want to celebrate, O’Doherty says participating in any tradition, even one as simple as coffee in bed, can make the day meaningful. So if Mother’s Day lunch is filling you with warm, fuzzy feelings, there’s no need to fix what isn’t broken.
Megan and Heather much prefer their new tradition of shooting the breeze on the go rather than meeting for lunch, Megan being grateful that it gives her a chance to express her feelings for her mother. “Telling someone you’re proud of them and love them is one of the best things you can do.
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